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May 31 Birthday LunchI am losing memory these days. (I am not getting enough oxygen in my head - with those late nights and OTs). Just last week, I knew Clare's birthday was just around the corner and asked her about her birthday. She gave me the answer I wanted - yet 3 days ago, I completely forgot her actual birthday. Feeling really guilty, I decided to treat her at one of the best Shanghai restaurants. (That was where Dendy and Shin brought us the last time - "Fu 188") Clare is always a considerate and caring friend. Knowing I was always being "taken advantage" of by the locals, she was very cautious about the ordering of dishes. She even came downstairs to ensure that I won't be conned by my "so-called" chef friend. Her first question was "Are you a local?" and then "Good, please serve us good authentic Shanghai dishes." The verdict? Except for the exorbitant high price, both my local friends love the food (trust their taste, cos they are my 2 harshest critics - Calvin Mao and Clare Mao). Too bad for Steven (who got to rush off for a meeting) and Tracy (who can only eat 2 dishes - out of 10 we ordered). And Rebecca? As usual - she disappeared in some twilight zone. As the team is counting down to our M-Day (Shanghai-HK migration day), we are now left with only 5 members of the original GTR clan. Steven and Rebecca couldn't join us today. Daisy and Lisa both sent separate MSN notes - reminding me to organise a big farewell meal for everyone. Guess I will be planning the gathering lunch some time mid June - wonder if it is a good idea to combine farewell and birthday together. And this time, I will let Clare pick the venue. May 25 My last Month in ShanghaiJust 2 weeks ago, I celebrated my 2nd successful year in Shanghai. Taking up this position in Shanghai was certainly a difficult one. I had to overcome many of my "taboos". For those who knew me, I have 3 "dislikes in life" that are taboos to me - (1) I hate to be accused of things I didn't commit, (2) I hate people who smoke in my presence, (3) I have aerophobia - I am fearful of flying. Life is an irony - I am now doing best of what I used to hate most. Over the last 2 years, I have taken more than 50 flights - over 200 hours. And I am working in the tobacco industry. Have I got rid of my fear of flying and dislike of smokers? Not at all, I still detest people smoking in my face and I am still nervous on every flight I take. Many headhunters asked me how I ended up working for Ogilvy in Shanghai - It is always the same answer I gave them. A wedding dinner in Shanghai changed my life (and affected many others). Back in 2006 May, I had the most comfortable life - running my own studio with a group of very passionate friends. Those were the days of love and passions. No matter how late we worked every night, every day was an enjoyment. We were a small agency but we grew a sustainable business of 2.5 years. Month on month, our accounts were growing. We had steady growth and we were working great. Why Shanghai? Looking back at my old blogs of March-May 2006 - I needed a "change" badly. I am no longer challenging myself and I am hungry for a new adventure. Coming to Francis-Echo's wedding dinner was more like a holiday trip with my family and friends. I have never expected to extend my career in Shanghai. A casual chat with Francis and Hovman at the old XiangYang market changed everything. March 2006 was my 3rd trip to Shanghai - it was also that trip that I fell in love with Shanghai. (not the night clubs - but the lifestyle and weather). Francis was telling us about a potential opportunity and asked us if we are interested. None of us took his offer seriously. I just replied I love Shanghai and really love to stay here. I still remember the last departing conversation we had at Huai Hai Road, Francis told me "Give me 6-9 months. Prepare yourself. I get you an assignment here." I casually replied "Sure. I be here." That was it. One week later, Francis arranged a meeting between my future boss and me. It was a quick 15-minute meeting at Regent Hotel Singapore. And I was offered to fly back to Shanghai the following week for another meeting. After more than 7 hours of meetings (in 2 days) - I was offered a position. And 5 weeks later, I was here. I remembered my 1st month in Shanghai - it was very demoralising and uncomfortable. Many times, I asked myself "what the fuck I am doing here". It was this experience that taught me the reality of separations and the preciousness of family-ties. For more than 14 months, I lived without my family and wahbiang clan. It was painful not having Elkan by my side. I felt the emptiness - Gone were our usual Sat nights at Hotel 25 or supper at Eunos Kopitiam. I missed my old brothers - Meijie, Jimmy, Yifu, Duuk and Gareth. MSN, Skype and Spaces were my connections to them. It is ironic. The job which emptied my personal life, filled those void with the most beautiful and priceless experience. My stay in Shanghai changed a lot of my perception about China. It also confirmed many life assumptions that I had before. Being with a big MNC isn't as grand as I thought - in fact, I concluded that my own small agency in Singapore fared much much better. It was just a different set of games and turfs. The fundamentals are the same. Most importantly, this journey fulfilled one of my school-day wishes - that is to work with the Great Ogilvy. I love Ogilvy like the way I love Caffeine. It is a name that I strongly believe in and a name I feel proud carrying. Like what my old intern, Steven, would said - "Ogilvy is a Legend." I couldn't agree more. Felicia knew about this - I missed a great working opportunity with Ogilvy back in 1999 - and it was one of the big regrets in my career path. By fate and pure chance, I was united with Ogilvy 8 years later. And I was glad that I entered at a good level - a role that allows me to perform and prove my worth. ![]() Time passed fast, in a blink, 24 months have flew by. Just when I finally settled myself in Shanghai - I was "ordered and offered" to move to Hong Kong. It was a painful 6-month struggle. For many moments, I came very close to give up the HK offer. I kept swinging "yes and no" within myself - that frustrated the people around me. Finally, last Thursday (after 6 months), I ended my struggle and signed the letter. In less than 30 days, I will be moving - From 东方明珠 to 东方之珠. Will I miss Shanghai? An astounding "yes"! If you look back at my life over the last 24 months, you will only see images of fun, excitement and love. I met a group of people that I want to keep as long life friends - Rebecca, Alicia, Calvin, Nick, Franklin, Clare, Angela, Hong Ai, Johnny+wife and a bunch of "Malaysian kakis". And I am blessed to have Francis, Echo and my cousin Yei who accompanied me throughout my lonely weekends. Not forgetting my frequent visitors - Joanne, Hovman, Scott, Desmond and Kalinda who filled my house with so much joys whenever they were here. While it is too early to say goodbye, I just want to jot down my feelings tonight. Sigh, guess it is time to start packing. This time, my new adventure starts closer to home. May 19 Black Week in China When my cousin Yei text-messaged me last week about an earthquake in Sichuan, I never expect the seriousness of this incident. I was in Singapore, setting up a booth for my client. And when I returned to Shanghai on Friday, I went back to my work. I have no chance to read about the earthquake or have any idea how bad it was. Not until today. China touched my heart today. I have never seen a nation so united, so full of compassion. The power of their unity in this dark hours moved my heart. I can never understand their loss and tears. But I can feel their grieve. It is one of those rare moments when you see a nation together. Being a foreigner here, I admire their love for their country and their people. I felt so small in their presence. At 2:28pm today, China observed a 3-minute silence. My colleagues stood still for 3 minutes. One by one, they stood up and bowed their head in silence. It was a sight that I can never erased from my mind. Their silence was loud and powerful. I felt so guilty (cos' I was in the midst of my presentation call with a client). The strength of their silence empowered my teleconversation. It was almost impossible to even whisper into the phone. I have to cut my client short and hanged up the phone. I felt so bad about my disruptive conversation that I sank low on my chair and observed the silence. May 17 Tracy's 29th Birthday DressesTracy celebrated her 1st birthday in Shanghai today - with our same old Shanghai gang. (Strangely & coincidently, there was always a "surprise visiting guest" attending our birthdays in Shanghai - Felicia had Francis' Dad, I had Juliana and Tracy had Hovman - who had just arrived last night!) She gave us a good treat (at a nicely decorated restuarant) near our house - The bill came up just a little too expensive. (Urghh...we shouldn't let Joe ordered the food). So, what did Tracy get for her birthday? Haaa... lots of new birthday dresses (from Echo, Joanne & Felicia) and hangbaos (from Ming & Johnny, Duuk & Juliana, Meijie & Kalinda, Joe)! Since there is no "g-string or lacy lingeries", Tracy was sporting enough to "wear" those presents for us to see. (Opps...she forgot to pose with her new handbag - from Francis and Echo!). Mmm...guess she needs a new haircut and a gym membership. Get the hint, babe? Belated Birthday Gift for Gareth!
Our May Day Outing
Before we put Elkan inside this air-vessel, he was very excited and persuaded me to buy the tickets. When I bought the ticket, Elkan said "Daddy, you go inside, I roll you outside." I wished I could too. My fat ass was too big for the hole and I struggled a little while just to get my fat body inside. Once inside, the operator walked over to us and hinted in a nice way that this capsule is for kids (of course, I know that cos I can't feel that "bouncing on air" feeling - I was sitting flat on the ground!). Anyway, there is no way we can get Elkan inside. And I have to tease him with toys and candies - eventually, Elkan went in, tried 5-seconds and started wailing. What a shame. Turning Points AheadI have a love-hate relationship with "mid-year" (Apr-Jun). It is always the season when I put myself in real difficult situations. Often, I was compelled to make decisions that were double-edged (with pro and con outcome). There were sacrifices made, but overall, I often made decision to benefit "the biggerr picture". Sigh, that means, it may not be a decision that benefit me.
In exactly 1 week time, I will be celebrating my 2nd Anniversary in China. 2 years ago (this time), I made a difficult-but-wise "turning point" to Shanghai (after making that painful decision to give up my comfortable seat in Caffeine), I am now facing another difficult call. This time, the stake is even bigger and I am not sure if I want to continue my quest. In the next 2 weeks, I will certainly reveal the final answers.
For those who know what I am talking, do pray for me. I had a good friend who once said to me "God has a Mission for you to do in China. You will never know how long you will be there - as long as He needs you to finish the Mission". It was a good encouraging note - one which gave me a sense of accomplishment. Haaa... to date, I still have no idea on what that "mission" was - except playing good tour guides for all my 50 visitors. Still, it's good faith that keeps me going no matter where I am or what I do.
Being an aspired leader, I hate to admit I am a little confused this time. I am happy with the ship I captained. I haven't let my crew down and I have brought them to good shores. I just have no idea where I want to go next. How I wish I have that "Black Pearl" - which can guide me to where my heart desires. Not my head's and certainly not my pay-masters'.
Another 14 stressful and dreadful days to go. This is going to be a tough period for me. May-June is extremely busy months for me...and I have to opt my next "turning point". I affected many people when I made the last big decision 2 years ago. This time, it is not going to be easy. Anyone, care to flip coin with me? Head or tail? Anyway, I am dumping my problem to Him. It is His responsibility to ensure I succeed. Meanwhile, I am packing to HK and Singapore.
See you folks in less than 5 days! |
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